I'm A Little Down, Need Input

So after my first project, I realized that I SUCK at figuring out project specs.

I am a female programmer, so I'm always trying to go further and beyond to prove my worthiness.

I can admit, that understanding specs is a weak point for me right now.

I want to be able to read specs and instantly know where to start and how to finish.

I also want to become very savy with java code. Should I just read lots and lots of code, until it becomes second nature?
Is there any advice from my fellow D.I.C family?

Thanks !

ladyJava (: